What is Emotion Coaching?
- A method to help children understand and manage their emotions.
- Supports the development of emotional intelligence.
- The concept of emotion coaching was developed by Dr John Gottman. His work emphasizes the importance of parents and caregivers in helping children understand and manage their emotions, effectively.
Benefits:
- It helps create nurturing relationships, develop capacities to promote emotional and behavioural self-regulation and support pro-social behaviours.
- It can harness wellbeing through improved communication, relationships, self-regulation, attainment, health, and resilience.
Emotion coaching involves several key steps to help children understand and manage their emotions effectively:
- Become Aware of the Child’s Emotions
Notice the child’s emotional signals, such as facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice. Be present and attentive to their emotional state. - Recognise the Emotion as an Opportunity for Connection
View emotional moments as chances to connect with the child, rather than as problems to be solved quickly. Show that you understand and care about what the child is feeling. - Listen to the Child with Empathy
Give the child your full attention and reflect back what you hear to show understanding. Let them express their feelings without criticism or interruption. - Label the Emotion
Encourage the child to put a name to their emotions (e.g. I notice that… I was wondering if you are feeling... ). Teach them various words to describe their feelings. - Set Limits While Supporting Problem Solving
All emotions are acceptable, but not all behaviours are. Help the child find constructive ways to cope with their emotions and the situation. Encourage them to brainstorm solutions and make choices about how to handle their feelings.
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